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5 Ways To Keep The Spark Alive Ten or More Years of Marriage

Author: Sara O Brown | January 13, 2018


Falling in love is a wonderful experience and saying ‘I do’ is the most blissful part of every love story. When your love turns into marriage, probably you are the luckiest in the world.

All marriages go through ups and downs. But after ten or more years you miss those romantic things and start to see difference in your relationship.

The way you used to be together has changed and you are wondering where the romance has lost.

Not to worry, your relationship is not burning out. In fact, it’s getting stronger, the romance is still there, only the meaning has changed.

To revive the spark after many years of marriage is just a step away.

1. Spark of Love Flirt

Flirting is not only for singles or someone who has just started a new relationship. In fact, flirting brings the thrill back into relationship.


Recall the time when your relationship was new, full of romance, making woes to each other and flowers all around. If you want to keep the spark alive, it's high time to keep your skills on. Remember as you used to do during your courtship period.


Try to send raunchy texts or crack jokes. This will give air to the spark of love and will turn your lovey- dovey married life to a fiery romantic one.

2. Pamper Each Other

After years of marriage, you might have forgotten what it is like to pamper your partner.
One of the best way to keep the spark alive after ten or more years of marriage is to pamper your partner. If you pamper, will find that your marriage strengthens. Never try to neglect your partner. Try to pamper your spouse as you do to your kids. 

This will increase the bond. So pamper each other and relive those days of courtship, to bring the lost spark back in married life.

3. Go for Romantic Outings

Indeed the evergreen way to rekindle the spark in relationship is a date with partner. After years of marriage, you get used to the rigid routine. This kills the interest in marriage.

Call it a date night or alone time, the name is not important. What’s important is to spend at least one night together.

A date does not have to be big and expensive night out. You can even impress your spouse by preparing yummy and interesting dishes at home.


If possible, make it a point to never miss those places where you used to visit in the initial years. Places and memories rekindle the spark of lost romance back in life.


Kids, work, and things seems to be important at times but they aren’t when relationship is at stake.

5. Forgive and Forget

By and large, all fights and differences occur due to misunderstandings which makes married life a bit boring. For sure, at times it may happen between you and your spouse.

Try not to base the love of your spouse on some fights and misdeeds. Learn to forgive and forget. In fact, to err is human and to forgive is divine. So try to heal quickly and learn from mistakes.
It is a known fact, couples who forgive, are those who stay happy and positive.
This trick will surely bring the lost spark in your marriage and thus you will carry on having a great life ahead.

5. Compliment your Spouse

This is something that many couples stop doing over time. Giving a genuine compliment could initiate the romance. Praising your spouse will make them feel happy.

Psychologically, giving compliments to your partner helps in letting them know that they are nice and attractive as they used to be. This creates positivity in relationship.

At first your spouse may not notice but sooner or later, this will certainly ignite the charm. This is another way to grab your spouse attention and manifest that romance could be revived again.


Complementing is the best way to love your partner and built a good connection. Definitely, this will rekindle the spark and give your married life a boost.


In this way you could overcome life’s difficulties very easily and will probably laugh at them. It is so because true romance never doubts the love between you and your spouse. 


Author Bio/Credentials
Sara O Brown is a working mom, lives with her dentist husband and her adorable dog, Casper. She is passionate about traveling and cooking. She has been a regular contributor for My Healthcare India.